Anonymous asked: i was just wondering how to make someone understand why i am the way i am? (they think that im just seeking attention)
Well there are several ways of going about it. I’m not sure what all you’ve got, but let’s say that you have depression. If they try and pull the “choose happiness” card, put it back to them logically. Ask them, “Don’t you think that if it were really that simple, I could easily be better? Don’t you think I would have tried that already?”
One of the easiest ways to make someone understand is to show them resources online, scientific websites and essays that explain the science and causes of mental illnesses.
I think the person saying you’re just seeking attention may be jealous. A lot of people take on that attitude because they think, “Hey I’ve got problems too but I’m not making a big deal about it. How come they get to complain about it/mope around/other inconsiderate ableist idea of what people with depression do?” They’re jealous that you get to talk about your problems and they don’t. They may have depression too but don’t have the opportunity to talk openly about it, or they may just be struggling through life’s difficulties like everybody else. Either way, explain to them that you’re not seeking attention, you have a legitimate illness just like someone with asthma or diabetes. They wouldn’t accuse someone who was having an asthma attack and needed their inhaler of seeking attention, would they? So why is depression or another mental illness any different? It would also be important to let them know that you are there for them if they ever need to talk about their problems. Or if you’re not in a place where you can properly listen to their struggles (it’s too exhausting or if you’re trying to focus on your own problems before helping anyone else, etc), let them know you support them and care for them, but you’re not in a position to help them or give them good advice and suggest someone better.